AnnaleeWrite a message
- My age:
- I am 24
- My sexual preference:
- Figure type:
- My body type is quite strong
- What is my hobbies:
You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? I am one of those people. Throughout my entire love life -- or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others -- I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it naturally, it involves being the younger sister.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewerand support Mumsnet. Hello all, I was looking for some advice. I'm not sure whether it's my place or if I should keep quiet about it. DD is at university in London and is very very career driven and motivated.
Through a networking event she met a 29 year old lawyer. They went for drinks and from there have started dating. I just fear they are at different stages of their lives, and I wouldn't want either to wast each others time.
I think she likes that he owns a nice flat in central London and can afford to take her out for nice drinks and dinners etc. Is this an ok dating gap? She does have a friend whose partner is 30 when the girl is 20! At 20 and 29 time is all for the wasting surely?! Dating, having fun, wining and dining. If that's the case then she'll figure it out? A bit of a rite of passage to date people who aren't suitable or might not be long-term. I wish I'd done more of that in my 20s! If she's told you this much already then keep that line of communication open without expressing your displeasure and she'll be more likely to confuse in you if she has any concerns about him the relationship?
She has plenty of time.
The real rules about old and young you can date
That age gap wouldn't even be a consideration at their ages. It may fizzle out or they may end up settling down together. It's up to them. That's a fine age gap I think, I wouldn't worry about it. People mature etc at all different rates as well, I don't think it's uncommon for men in their late 20's maturity to line up with women in their early 20's anyway! Better she date a mature together guy I would think! And at 20 she has plenty of time to waste and have life experiences anyway! What exactly is an 'ok dating gap' though? Surely if all are adults and at 20 she is very definitely one and she is enjoying herself then that's not cause for any 20 dating 29 really.
It's really not that unusual or any cause for alarm age gap wise IMO. Whatever she likes about him or dating him is up to her regardless. In the gentlest possible way OP I don't think you need to worry about what you think of them wasting each others time. It's their time and isn't and shouldn't be something you get a say in anyway, she needs to live her adult life and is currently enjoying herself with another adult.
40 year old woman dating 30 year old man
A 29yo professional in a London is nowhere near looking to settle down. So they are in a very similar phases of life that way. Only he is more solvent than her student male friends. Let her enjoy dating and having fun. I know this sounds quite mean, I just can't see what he can see in a university student, which is what makes me suspicious.
Obviously I think dd is pretty and gregarious etc etc but the cynic in me makes me wonder. It worked fine for us. Most guys I'd dated up til that point had been years older than me, but he was still more mature and together than they were! We fortunately were probably in similar places in life in terms of wanting a serious relationship and wanting to settle down in the near future.
29 year old woman dating 45 year old man
We're in our 30s now 11 ish years later and the age difference really isn't obvious anymore. I think let her enjoy and have fun. I didn't think it was anything serious at the time myself, but you never know?
A young friend of mine male is 29 and has recently ended his relationship with a young woman of 20, citing the age gap. He's ready to settle down and she's a very young 20 - could easily pass for 17 and behaves like it. I think it depends very much on their stage of maturity, shared interests and all that. I had a relationship with a guy 8 years older than me when I was It was fun, he had a car, his own house and a career.
We're still friends today 35 years later, however. Another interesting adult to talk to perhaps? She is 20, she's not your little girl any more, she has a life and thoughts and experiences that in all likelihood you know nothing about. She may well be a far more interesting adult than you realise. And what's wrong with wasting a bit of time? Surely she is not in a desperate hurry 20 dating 29 find Mr Right? But they are in the same stage? I had an even larger age gap with my husband when we started dating I was even younger than your daughter too.
We had a really great time together and ended up getting married. He will be flattered by a young girls attention, she's enjoying a bit of tlc with a self sufficient man, not to mention the fact they are probably enjoying fantastic sex. My mum was 11 years younger than my dad It can work out well then! I guess I still see her as my little girl, and last year she was still a teenager. My first boyfriend was 28, I was We got on well for a couple of years, then he wanted to settle down and I didn't, so it ended by mutual consent.
It was fine. We never ran out of things to talk about and he certainly didn't find me boring! I think he'll like the fact she isn't looking to settle and have kids right now, as women his age might be. Sounds fine.
29 year old woman dating 45 year old man
I bet she does like dating a 29 year old lawyer if she's I would have liked to. I was always mature beyond my years.
Sounds fantastic. Age gap relationships rarely last when one partner is still in full time education. Already have a Mumsnet ? Log in. Talk ». Add message Report. Add message Report See all. the discussion To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet. Mumsnet Already have a Mumsnet ? Start new thread in this topic Watch this thread Flip this thread Refresh the display. Add a message.